Day 4 Transcript
Hey there, I'm Donna Doyon. It's Day 4 of "The Missing Piece: How to invite more joy into your seemingly perfect life."
Now yesterday, we talked about our need to belong and the need for self-esteem, positive healthy self-esteem, as well as the respect, and the esteem of others. So, if you didn't watch that video yet, I would encourage you to go back and watch that one, and any other videos you missed in the series. I'll put links for those in the description.
Today, we are going to focus on the bottom section of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We are going to focus on the Basic Needs.
Now this encompasses the safety and the security that we feel. Now safety, that's feeling safe on our jobs. It's feeling safe in our homes, in our neighborhoods and community. It's feeling like we don't have to worry about getting hurt with everything that we do.
And then the security aspect of it... that includes financial security. Now, you have a good job. You're making...you're paying all of your bills on time You have food on your table, shoes on your feet.
So you're not really worried about your financial situation. Occasionally, things may come up, where you're living paycheck to paycheck, but for the most part, you have a good grasp on your financial situation. You have some savings or a lot of savings. You have money set aside for
retirement, so you don't have to worry about that, in the grand scheme of things.
We also include our health, our physical conditioning, in this. This is very much our body. What we're eating. What we're doing for exercise. What our weight is.
This is something that more people have a challenge with. And in America obesity is on the rampage. There are so many health-related diseases that are just really destroying our population. It's destroying our opportunities to experience life to the fullest, because we have these physical limitations.
And this is something I'm very familiar with. Well, it's been two years now and I started the process of losing 50 pounds. And what a difference it made. I didn't even really, really see how overweight I was. Or how much that extra weight was impacting what I could do. It's amazing!
Our bodies are what are housing us here. They're what's holding us in place. And anything we want to accomplish, we need a healthy body to do it.
But this isn't a lecture on your health and your fitness and your food choices, I promise. What I would like to say here, though, is that we all have choices.
And so if you are worried about your health, if you're worried about how much exercise, or how little exercise, you have. If you're worried about your food choices, about your weight... it's up to you to take action. You can mitigate the amount of time you spend fretting over those things, by taking action. [It] doesn't have to be huge action. Doesn't have to be dedicating an hour or two hours a day to the gym. It doesn't have to be cutting out all of the good foods, you like to eat. But you can make healthier choices.
The same with your finances. If you are spending time worried about your finances, make different choices.
But even if you accept where you are you, accept that you're 30 or 40 pounds overweight, you're fairly inactive. If you accept that you live paycheck to paycheck and you've been doing it that way for decades, then that's your choice. And you can live that way. No judgments.
But... you knew there was a "but" coming... I know that you did.
But if you are still spending time and energy focusing on your financial situation or your health, you are stealing the joy. You're stealing the missing piece. That self actualization time, because you're not fully accepting who you are. You are not accepting your unique gifts and talents, because you're focusing on something that's a lower level priority.
And in just five minutes a day you can make changes to your financial status, to your health status.
You can start to lose weight in five minutes a day. Well, hmmm, you can start to become more physically fit in five minutes a day. You can start to lose weight by just eating 100 or 200 calories fewer a day. Did you know that the difference in number of calories a woman needs, who weighs 130 pounds versus one who weighs 160 pounds, is 200 calories a day, approximately. So, if you're eating a candy bar every day and you cut out that candy bar, given time, you will drop down to 130 pounds. If nothing else changes. How cool is that?
So, you can make small changes on a daily basis, to release the stress and the worry, that's holding you back, in those areas of security. Because feeling secure is the second highest or the, yes, the second most basic need, that we have. We are going to focus our energy on it, because it's that critical to our survival... to our being. It's important to our happiness. Okay? Lecture over. Maybe. Okay.
So the very bottom layer is the basic physiological needs.
This is food, water, shelter, sleep. Those very basic things that most of us don't even have to think about. We have safe drinking water. We have so many food choices, it's, it's ridiculous. We have a warm place to live. So we don't even really have to worry about those needs.
But those are the basic needs. And if we're spending a lot of time focused at that lowest level of hierarchy, of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, we don't have time to experience the joy.
But luckily, we don't have to completely meet the needs at one level, in order to start expanding into the higher levels.
So at the very base of these basic needs of safety/security: food, water, shelter, and once you have a good grip on those, whether they're perfect or not, you can start elevating and worrying about and focusing on your relationships, on your confidence, on your self-esteem, your respectability, your responsibility, who you are, how people view you, not because they're judging you, but because they see you in high regard. They know your contributions to make the world a better place, to make the workplace a better place, to make the family a better
And then we can spend more time in that upper triangle, the self-actualization peace. This is where most of your joy is going to come from. It's being aware of what makes you happy. Freely expressing it, so that even in the worst moments, when you're struggling, because you ran out of heating oil, and it's cold, and you have no heat. But because so many of your other needs are met, you can gather with friends and you can find something to laugh about, as you're playing cards over candlelight, as you're eating, you know, canned tuna fish, and, and carrots.
But you can find joy in so many moments, instead of focusing on worrying about those things.
So today, I would love to know what your thoughts are about your financial situation, as well as your health situation. Do you spend a lot of time thinking about them? Saying, "Oh, I should... oh, I shouldn't buy this cup of coffee." "Oh, I should go for a walk at lunchtime." If you are spending a lot of time focused on those areas, you can take action for them.
So I would love to know what areas you're struggling with in that safety/security/health/
physical condition area and just share that in the comments below.
And then tomorrow, we are going to do an overview and just a summary of what you've learned. And then also some ideas for how you can bring more joy into your life.
And I almost forgot that... so, today to bring more joy into your life, what I would love for you to do is look around you, and see if you can experience some sensation of the various elements. We have water, fire, wind, and air.
So, I live here in Maine, USA and going outside, it's very cold and so experiencing the cold air, blowing my breath out, and being able to watch my breath. And then if it's a windy day you see it, just see it blow away. You may be at home and it may be cold and you have a fire in the fireplace. And just sit and spend a few minutes looking at the fire. How it jumps around. How a breeze can impact it. Or if you're around water... I always say one of my favorite things is hand washing dishes, because the sound of the water, the feel of it over my hands, to me that's just a multi-sense experience.
So, go outside, stay inside, experience the elements and find joy in them. Because they're just as much a part of you, as you are.
So, I will see you tomorrow on Day 5.