Ep038 – Self Care After Exhausting Experiences

Life can be exhausting… even (especially) the fun stuff. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to experience some down-time to regroup and reconnect with ourselves.

In this episode, I share some ways to restore your energy even when you only have a few minutes to do so.

So here’s my story…

Earl and I spent 5 days hiking the Appalachian Trail from Rte 2 in Gorham, New Hampshire to Rte 26, Grafton Notch State Park, in Newry, Maine. It was about 30 miles of rugged terrain.

A one-mile stretch called Mahoosuc Notch, is known as the hardest, slowest traveled, and most fun mile on the 2,200 mile trail. I agree with all of those sentiments!

After 5 days on the trail, I was exhausted. This was definitely one of those vacations that I should have allowed myself a recovery day before returning to the job.

Donna Doyon - crawling thru rocks in Mahoosuc Notch

Donna Doyon – crawling thru rocks in Mahoosuc Notch

Hiking the Appalachian Trail north from Speck Pond, Maine. On our way up Old Spec Mountain.

Hiking the Appalachian Trail north from Speck Pond, Maine. On our way up Old Spec Mountain.

Donna Doyon after living the Dream for 5 days

I have always bruised easily, but this was ridonkulous! The bruises continue to grow and spread. This is what living the dream looks like. HA HA

Life can get hard. It may not be a grueling physical experience that wears you down; it may be a stressful job or health crisis. Whatever life throws at you, be sure to make time (and take time) to perform a little self care.

Self care will mean something different for you than it does for me. Napping, reading, or putting yourself in a Netflix induced coma may not be your answer… but whatever you do to recharge your battery, please, please, please do it. You deserve to live life to the fullest and we can’t do that when our batteries are drained.

Hugs and healing wishes to you!

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Ep037: Make the Ask for What You Want

When my boys were young and wanted something, I always made them ask for it.

Politely, of course. 🙂

Heck, even after they were grown, I still made them ask–sometimes, they weren’t quite as polite. 🙂

It wasn’t that I didn’t know what they wanted, I wanted them to learn how to ASK for what they wanted. I believed it was an important life skill–articulating your wants, your needs. I still believe it’s an important life skill.

Admittedly, it can be difficult to learn AND uncomfortable to apply.

But many times not asking leads to conflicts in relationships. We expect the other person to read our minds (or our hearts), but we never claim the ability to do this for them.

Many times not asking leads to making poor choices because we anticipate the answer will be no. Rather than giving someone the chance to say no, we break ties, we make mistakes.

In today’s episode, I share my story of “making the ask.”

I assure you… it was not easy. But I pulled up my big-girl-panties and did it anyway. Listen to my story…

What do you want in your life? Are you willing to ask for it?

I hope you are. I hope you do.

Just remember… ask nicely. 🙂

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Ep036: Brighten Someone’s Day with a Greeting Card or Note Card

I have a challenge for you…

Take a quick few minutes to list the people who have made an impact on your life (for better or worse). Think of people who exist in your current world, and people from your past. Think of people you grew up with, went to school with, worked with, lived with or near.

Now count the number of people you’ve connected ith in recent months. Consider the quality of that connection. Was it a quick “like” on a Facebook post? Was it text message reminding someone to do something?

When was the last time you reached out to someone just to let them know you care?

In this week’s episode of Reflections of a Recovering Ugly Duckling, I share tips on the lost art of connecting with the people we love with short, personal notes.

Show Notes:

Here are some things I referenced in today’s episode:

guide to note cards and greeting cards

Click the image above to download this quick guide to creating and writing your own meaning-filled note cards



Click here to download the FREE “Brighten Someone’s Day” guide.


This guide will show you how to create quick, easy, and inexpensive note cards PLUS 50+ starter ideas to make note writing a bit easier.

Note cards, greeting cards guide

This is the original cover

My cluttered desk, note card, greeting cards

OMGoodness… this is slightly embarrassing (okay, more than slightly)… but yes, this is my desk. Sigh… now can you understand why I couldn’t focus?

The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks – The big question asked (and answered) in this book is this: Are you limiting your success because of your own “upper limit problem”? If you’re like me, the bell will keep going “ding, ding, ding” as you are reading this book.

Explore your creative side on www.canva.com – this free graphic service is AMAZING! You can upload your own photos or images or you can use theirs (some cost $1 to use). You can use their design templates, or just play around with colors, shapes, and designs.

Print your own note cards on www.vistaprint.com – this website allows you to create lovely note cards (and many other items) using their designs (which you can customize to your needs) or upload your own images to use. I’ve ordered business cards and postcards from them and have been pleased with the products.

Disclaimer: As I shared in the podcast episode, I don’t have any financial relationship with any of the above services. I have used or purchased their products with my own funds.

If you enjoyed today’s episode, I hope you will accept my challenge and let someone know you are thinking of them today. It will most definitely brighten their day!

Ep035: Living Your Lifelong Dreams

Do you have a lifelong dream? A dream that has been a part of you for so long that you don’t remember a time when you didn’t want to do it?

Perhaps your lifelong dream is to something unique or fun. Perhaps your dream is to meet someone you admire. Perhaps your dream is to see a specific place on this planet.

Whatever your dream, whether it’s practical or not… likely or not… do you have the courage of heart to pursue it?

In this week’s episode I share a couple of my lifelong dreams and offer ideas on how you can experience your own.

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Show Notes:

One thing that will help or hurt you on your journey to achieving your lifelong dream is a strong, determined inner voice. Other people may try to dissuade you using emotions or logic, but if you have a positive inner voice, you can ignore and move beyond those concerns. Listen to episode #1 (that’s how important it is) here:  Inner Voices.

One of my lifelong dreams was to write a book. My first book was a collection of short, lesson-filled stories (and so was my second book). You can learn more about my books here: Glow: Renew Your Spirit & Release Your Inner Beauty.

Another lifelong dream was to “jump out of a perfectly good airplane.” On August 4, 2012, I did just that. Here’s a link to the video proof.

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Ep034: Accept and Embrace Your Imperfection

I don’t know if you’ve noticed… but I am not perfect.

I know… it’s hard to believe. But there it is.

And you know what? I bet you aren’t perfect either.

And do you know what else… do you know the MOST IMPORTANT “WHAT ELSE” is?

It doesn’t matter!

We are all imperfect beings. Accepting our own imperfections and learning to embrace the imperfections of others is one of the keys to happiness and fulfillment.

In this week’s podcast episode, I’ll share a list of my imperfections and how I stopped caring about them (or am trying not to care so much about them). Enjoy!

Show notes:

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Here’s one of my first goal setting videos… notice the blinky-blinky eyes and my crooked face. Sigh… it doesn’t matter… it doesn’t matter. 🙂

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