Ep033: How to Deal with Unfair Criticism

A backhanded compliment… unfair criticism… we’ve all experienced them. They don’t leave you feeling all warm and fuzzy inside, do they? Instead they leave us feeling worse than if nothing had been said at all.

In this week’s episode I share my extremely frustrating and disheartening workplace environment that frequently explodes with unfair criticism and backhanded compliments. This practice wreaks havoc on my morale and my level of “give a darn.”

The most frustrating thing is that is doesn’t have to be this way!

Show notes:

As promised, here are links to some articles with more tips on how to deal with unfair criticism:

How to Deal with Criticism Well: 25 Reasons to Embrace It

How to confidently deal with criticism, and sleep soundly at night

7 Effective Ways to Deal With Criticism

If the critical voice you keep hearing is inside your own head, I encourage you to listen to Episode 001: Inner Voices.

How do you deal with unfair criticism? Do you have some tips to share? I’d love to know your secrets to surviving the jungle of criticism.

Ep030: The Wonders of Water

One morning I awoke to the sound of rain hitting the skylight above my bed. The rain didn’t leave me feeling discouraged or bummed about the rainy day ahead of me. Instead I became more aware of the wonders of water.

From the soothing sound of rain on the window panes, to the comforting sound of a toilet flushing, to the refreshing taste of a thirst-quenching gulp–water is a wonderful and amazing gift.

If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with your friends.

Until next time,


Ep026: Books Contain the Answers You Need

Anyone who has known me for long, knows I enjoy reading. I enjoy fiction for relaxation and non-fiction for self and business development.

Books were a key part of my relationship with my kids when they were little. They became more important as my children grew into teenagers. I loved seeing my children read and would frequently ask if I could read their books when they were finished.

This accomplished a few things:

  1. It showed them that I was interested in what they were interested in. We’d have great discussions after I finished reading their books.
  2. It taught them both the importance of not spoiling books (or movies) for someone who hasn’t read/seen them yet. 🙂
  3. It opened my eyes to genres and authors that I probably would not have explored on my own.


I’d love to know what you are reading these days. Please share your titles and authors in the comments below.

Ep019: Cranky Pants (or how to deal with stressful days)

We all have those days.

We wake up in the morning, we think we are putting on a pair of favorite blue jeans, but we get to work and discover…

“Oh no! I put on my cranky pants today!”


We warn anyone who crosses our path to beware. “Do not poke the bear!” we advise them. But some people like to live dangerously, don’t they. And so yes, they poke the bear.

In today’s episode, my last one recorded as a lovely (sometimes cranky) 53-year-old woman, I talk about dealing with the stressors in life. Some are self-imposed (as was my case this week) and sometimes we allow them to impose upon us.

In either case, we and the people around us, need to deal with the person we become. Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde?

Show Notes:

I talked about some business goals that I had with May 1 deadlines. Here’s the rundown on how I did.

Update website pages. There are live links to the ones I managed to update in time for my birthday.

  • Home page – Done
  • Start Here page – Done
  • Nurture a Dream page – Done
  • Patreon page – Almost done. Still need to add a video. Testing for the site failed, so I have to figure out why my account won’t accept sponsor payments.
  • Video for Patreon page – Not done
  • NAQ/FAQ page – Not done. In progress

Online Training Course – Working on it

  • Finish editing training videos
  • Upload course materials to Thinkific website (hosting platform for the course)
    • Worksheet for the course
    • Videos for the course
    • Other notes and instructions
  • Test course accessibility
  • Create (then test) sign up page information/technology
  • Create (then test) payment option information/technology

Finalize branding information (colors/fonts/image style) for my business – Working on it

Yikes! That’s a lot of stuff I expected to get done for May 1st!

Here’s a bit of background on these goals. The website and Patreon goals were made on March 1st.

Then on March 6th, I enrolled in an online business training course that has been teaching me about developing online training courses. So I have also been working thru that training program and that is where those goals came from. Why did I use May 1st as the deadline? Because May 1st is my birthday and I love accomplishing BIG things on my birthday!

Have you checked in on the status of your goals lately? Are you on track? Are you ahead of schedule or a bit behind? Did you completely lose your focus and stop working on them?

Any answer is your answer. You are accountable only to yourself. But if it helps to be accountable to others (in fact, it helps most people stay on track better), please join my Facebook group Start Today and Continue Tomorrow. We’ll be your accountability partners!

Where Do You Find Your Strength?

Are you a strong person? What do you think it means to be strong? Do you equate that word with physical strength? Mental strength? Emotional strength? All of them?

I believe that strength comes in many forms. I also believe that we don’t discover our strength on the easy days. We find strength in ourselves on the hard days–on the days in which we push ourselves beyond what we thought we could do.

On the physical level it might be adding five pounds to the weights we are lifting or adding an additional set of reps we do. We may not think we can do it, but then we make the decision to give it a try and we discover that we can do it. What a great feeling!

I feel my physical strength when I am out hiking. On most hikes there is a point in the trail where I pause. I look at the trail ahead of me and wonder, “How the heck am I supposed to get up (or down) that?” Somehow, someway, I have always done what I thought I couldn’t.

Mental strength is our determination, our self-belief, our unrelenting commitment to that in which we believe. It keeps us going when the odds are stacked against us. It allows us to stay calm in the most chaotic of circumstances. It is something we can strengthen by facing the obstacles life throws at us with a plan and a positive outlook.

Recently at work a big mistake was made. This mistake meant we had to stop producing one of our products. It meant that we had to remake the material that had been ruined. It meant we might be late meeting one of our customer’s order dates. I’ll be honest–I totally flipped out. I was ready to just call it a day (at 6:30 a.m.), go home and crawl back into bed. I really did not want to deal with it. What did I do? I pulled up my big girl panties and I made the changes necessary to get that material remade. I determined which other products would need to be pushed back to accomplish this. I worked to solve the problem and move forward with production rather than doing what I wanted to do–let someone else figure it out.

Emotional strength is our ability to deal with the daily stressors of life. It allows us to move beyond the moments in life to continue growing as individuals. It is not letting events define us and keep us frozen in a moment in time.

In 2011, my 21-year-old son died. One thing I heard from many people was this, “I couldn’t handle it if my child died.” I didn’t think I could either. Before Sean passed, I would never have imagined I could handle that loss. When he died, I found out. I could handle that loss. I deal with that loss every day. It never goes away. My life settled into a new normal. I have a good life. That loss didn’t define me.

Each of us has different levels of these three types of strength: physical, mental, and emotional. When challenges are put in your path, face those challenges. Rant, rage, cuss, cry in the moment. Being strong doesn’t mean you can’t feel those emotions of the moment. Just let yourself move beyond those emotions. Take a deep breath. Ask for help, make a plan, and make an attempt to move beyond the obstacle.

Kenneth Blanchard said, “Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t do.”

Be strong today!