Ep046: One Solution to Dealing with Toxic Environments

Have you experienced the stress and struggle of living or working in a toxic environment? It’s tough, isn’t it?

For a variety of reasons you stay in that situation, even when you know it is time to end that personal or professional relationship. Many of us have done it. I’ve done it.

For me, there were two main reasons why I stayed in what I considered a toxic work environment.

The first reason I stayed was people focused: I knew I was serving the needs of my team. I knew I was making the workplace better for them. I knew I was resolving process problems that could impact the quality of our product. And when you make a product that peoples’ lives literally depend upon, that last factor is key.

The second reason I stayed was money focused: I had a goal to pay off my mortgage by October 2018. I was making aggressive extra principle payments. My 15-year mortgage would be paid off in just over 8 years if I stayed on track.

But finally, $15,000 shy of paying off my mortgage, the imaginary toxicity detector I wore to work each day started buzzing more loudly. Soon the noise became too distracting. It was all I could focus on.

In this week’s episode, I share the final warning signs and what I did to silence them.



If you experience a toxic environment in your personal or professional life, please listen to the flashing warning lights or shrill-sounding alarms. Your health and your happiness depend upon you recognizing these situations and relationships AND reducing your exposure to them. Today may be the day that you can start the process to free yourself from that poisonous situation.

This is your life to live. Make it a healthy and happy one!


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Ep042: Recharge Your Spirit

Have you ever been working, working, working and then hit a wall? Not literally, of course, but figuratively reached that point where you can’t go on. You feel like you can’t function anymore.

Sometimes we have the opportunity to step away from that wall to relax, regroup, and recharge our energy. Other times we do not.

In this week’s episode of Reflections of a Recovering Ugly Duckling, I share my recent experience with hitting the proverbial wall and how I bounced off it and restored my energy so I could continue my day.



What tips do you have for recharging your energy? Share them in the comments section below.

Ep041: Have You Thought About Your Health Lately?

How much time do you spend thinking about your health? Do you consider yourself healthy?

Do you fall in to the trap of thinking “health” only relates to your physical body?

In this week’s episode, I talk about the many types of health and offer an invitation to improve your overall health.



Episode Notes:

I referred to Episode 040: Facing Fear with the Power of Your Passions.

I also invited you to learn more about the Healthier Habits Starter Program.


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Ep033: How to Deal with Unfair Criticism

A backhanded compliment… unfair criticism… we’ve all experienced them. They don’t leave you feeling all warm and fuzzy inside, do they? Instead they leave us feeling worse than if nothing had been said at all.

In this week’s episode I share my extremely frustrating and disheartening workplace environment that frequently explodes with unfair criticism and backhanded compliments. This practice wreaks havoc on my morale and my level of “give a darn.”

The most frustrating thing is that is doesn’t have to be this way!



Show notes:

As promised, here are links to some articles with more tips on how to deal with unfair criticism:

How to Deal with Criticism Well: 25 Reasons to Embrace It

How to confidently deal with criticism, and sleep soundly at night

7 Effective Ways to Deal With Criticism

If the critical voice you keep hearing is inside your own head, I encourage you to listen to Episode 001: Inner Voices.

How do you deal with unfair criticism? Do you have some tips to share? I’d love to know your secrets to surviving the jungle of criticism.

Ep030: The Wonders of Water

One morning I awoke to the sound of rain hitting the skylight above my bed. The rain didn’t leave me feeling discouraged or bummed about the rainy day ahead of me. Instead I became more aware of the wonders of water.

From the soothing sound of rain on the window panes, to the comforting sound of a toilet flushing, to the refreshing taste of a thirst-quenching gulp–water is a wonderful and amazing gift.



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Until next time,

–Donna