Ep065: Do the Trappings of Language Block You?

Has this ever happened to you?

You were pursuing a new interest, learning a new skill, or having what started as a normal conversation with someone and then suddenly…

You hit a wall…

An invisible wall…

Interest withers, learning stops, and conversations become adversarial.

You find yourself wondering, “What the heck happened?”

In this week’s episode, I’m going to invite you to consider whether you were trapped by the meaning you have adopted of a particular word.

It happened to me, and it may have happened to you.

Too often, we don’t realize the problem, and therefore, we can’t resolve it, and move on.



Have you identified words that put a barrier between you and your dreams? You can choose to relabel things to less inflammatory words (you could even just call it Steve) or keep repeating the word until it becomes a non-word to you.

The important thing to remember, is to pay attention when you feel like your forward momentum has stopped. The problem is most likely NOT what you think it is. 🙂


The music for this podcast is Drifting Upstream by Hyson.
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CWP#1: Outside the Window

365 Creative Writing Prompts

Prompt #1: Outside the Window: What’s the weather outside your window doing right now? If that’s not inspiring, what’s the weather like somewhere you wish you could be?

Yesterday was amazing! Here in Maine we enjoyed the bounty of a Nor’easter storm. For those of you not familiar with New England weather, a Nor’easter is a storm with big winds and high snowfall amounts. Yesterday we got around 15-18 inches of snow.

Luckily, I only have to shovel the short front step path, my tiny back deck, and clear off my car. This was heavy, wet snow.

Except for shoveling (once very early in the morning and then around lunch time) I stayed inside where it was warm and cozy. It was a productive day for me.

As the day wore on, however, I became distracted by thoughts of cross country skiing.

I stared out the window of my multi-purpose second bedroom at the thick layer of snow. I knew the snow wouldn’t last long. March snow never does. With daily temps rising into the 30s and the sun is getting higher (and feeling warmer) in the sky, the snow depth shrinks each day until one day it is just… gone.

Glancing at my schedule for today, I saw that I only had my part-time job as a “must do” activity. My report time is 2:30 p.m. That means getting ready by around 1:30 p.m.

Except for the activities I had “planned” to do today, my morning was clear.

Could I skip my business tasks and go skiing this morning?

Was I the type of person who could blow off my list of To Do items for the mere joy of playing?

I sat with that idea for several minutes.

No. I am NOT the type of person who does that. I am serious, responsible, and I get too much joy from crossing tasks off my list.

But the idea kept niggling my brain. It became an itch that I couldn’t scratch.

I considered the idea once more.

I glanced at my list. I looked out the window.

Did I dare?

Did I, a woman, who lived life by the rules and routines I accepted as my truth, dare to disrupt the norm?

My eyes dropped to the oracle card I had selected that morning. “You are worth it,” it stated.

This snow is worth it, I realized. A big, beautiful March snow storm and it needed to be enjoyed. It needed to be appreciated.

I made the decision then, to play hookie this morning.

Here’s my new plan for this glorious late winter day:

1. Share this awakening with you

2. Record promised oracle card readings

3. Go play in the snow!

I woke up this morning so excited to know I made a choice to play today instead of sticking with my unnecessarily strict normal pattern of behavior. My heart feels light in anticipation of the fun I am going to have out in the woods on the ski trails.

I share this story with you so that you will occasionally give pause to your normal way of doing things and allow yourself the flexibility to go “off script” occasionally to enjoy life’s magical moments or precious, short-lived opportunities.

We all have choices when it comes to how we use our time. Today, I choose to work, then play, then work.

How will you spend today?


Pause, reflect, live your dreams

Ep063: 3 Tips to Change “I Should” into “I Will”

You know you SHOULD be taking certain steps to improve your health and happiness. But yet you don’t.

These 3 tips will help you begin the transition to living a healthier and happier lifestyle… even when you don’t want to. 🙂



Show notes:

Although I didn’t mention “Episode 48: All or Nothing or How About Something In-between” in this podcast episode, as I was mentioning that doing something is better than doing nothing, I knew it was a familiar concept. 🙂

If you’d like to learn a bit more about the impact our brain’s chemicals may have on our food choices, check out this information. I thought it was pretty enlightening ==> How do brain chemicals affect emotional eating?

And here’s the video on the “I should” or “I should not” game I created. 🙂


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Healthier Lifestyle tips for beginners


The music for this podcast is Drifting Upstream by Hyson.
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Ep062: Are you missing opportunities?

Have you ever said, “I always wanted to do that” when a friend shared some experience with you? Perhaps they showed you a purchase from a trendy store you’d always wanted to visit, or raved about a popular restaurant you never seemed to get to.

I consider all of these things that show up on your radar as opportunities to enrich your life. For whatever reason, you are attracted to them.

In this week’s episode, I offer 4 key reasons why you may be putting off these experiences that could enrich your life (even in the smallest ways).

Isn’t it time for you to do those things?



Occasionally while editing an episode of Reflections of a Recovering Ugly Duckling, I realize I skipped a point I had wanted to make, needed to clarify something I said, or wished I had said something I overlooked. So I started recording videos of those missed opportunities. Here are some additional thoughts about this week’s episode: Missed opportunities podcast


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Missed-opportunities


The music for this podcast is Drifting Upstream by Hyson.
Source: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Hyson/Soundtrack_for_the_Weary_Vol_I/Hyson_-_Drifting_Upstream

License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Ep061: The Power of a Pause

If you occasionally feel like you are spinning your wheels and getting nowhere, learn how pausing can help you focus in on what is MOST important to you.

In this episode, I share six occasions when pausing can be a useful way to get yourself moving again.

Enjoy!



Show Notes:

In today’s show I mentioned another podcast episode, Episode 015: Do You Focus on Important or Not Important Activities?

I also mentioned a video I recorded minutes BEFORE sitting down to record this podcast episode.


And because I had additional thoughts on this subject, here’s an After-the-Podcast video to finish things up. 🙂


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mindfulness-pause-reflect


The music for this podcast is Drifting Upstream by Hyson.
Source: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Hyson/Soundtrack_for_the_Weary_Vol_I/Hyson_-_Drifting_Upstream

License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/