How and When I Found My Voice

Do you have a vision for your future that just doesn’t go away? Do you feel like it is your destiny to do more than what you are currently doing? Do you resist the pull of that dream?

I don’t remember feeling a pull of purpose in my early adult years. I don’t recall spending too much time thinking about it. You see, for most of my life I was invisible–and I was okay with that.


Some people don’t understand why¬†I consider myself a recovering ugly duckling. They cannot picture me (or remember me) as being uncomfortable in my own skin or doubting that I belong.

Yet that was my reality growing up and it lasted into my late 20s/early 30s.

In 1997, though, I had a life changing experience–a horrible, traumatic, embarrassing–life changing experience. Through this experience I discovered my voice, rediscovered a long forgotten love of creative writing, and found a compelling purpose for my life.

In this video I share how and when I found my voice. The year was 1997…

Do you have a defining moment or action that transformed your life? I’d love to hear about it in the comments section below.

P.S. I apologize to those of you who already saw this video on Facebook. I am still trying to figure out the various settings on my website, YouTube, etc. It’s so confusing!! ūüôā

 

Ep003 – It’s a Wonderful Life

The movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” starring Jimmy Stewart is a Christmas classic. In this episode I share thoughts on the movie and how each one of us is living a wonderful life. You never know how or when you are impacting someone’s life in a dramatic way.



Resources mentioned in this episode:

It’s a Wonderful Life – a movie starring Jimmy Stewart, Donna Reed, and Lionel Barrymore.¬†An angel is sent from Heaven to help a desperately frustrated businessman by showing him what life would have been like if he had never existed.

Miracles from Heaven Рa movie starring Jennifer Garner, Kylie Rogers, and Martin Henderson. A young girl suffering from a rare digestive disorder finds herself miraculously cured after surviving a terrible accident. Based on a true story.


I encourage you to spend some time thinking about your talents and special contributions to the people in your life. Try not to minimize the impact a smile or friendly greeting can have on someone’s day!

I would love to know what you offer the world. Share your thoughts in the comments box below.

Ep001: Inner Voices

In this first episode I share a few thoughts about dealing with the negative voices that prevent us from being who we were destined to be. I also offer tips on strengthening your positive inner voice. These voices impact all areas of your life: your health and fitness, financial status, relationships and personal development. Developing a positive inner voice is one of the best things you can do for yourself!


 


“Think you can, think you can’t, either way you will be right.” – Henry Ford

Questions to ask yourself before you believe the negative inner voices:

  • Whose negative voice do you hear?
  • Is this a person you trust or respect?
  • Is this a person who knows you and what you want or are capable of doing?
  • Is this a person who truly has your best interests at heart?

Questions to ask yourself before you discount the positive inner voices:

  • Whose positive voice do you discount?
  • Is this a person you trust or respect?
  • Is this a person who knows you and what you want or are capable of doing?
  • Is this a person who truly has your best interests at heart?

Ways to quiet your negative inner voice:

  • Ask and answer the above questions each time you start to listen to a negative inner voice.

Ask yourself:

  • Is the voice telling me today’s truth?
  • Is the voice¬†offering helpful guidance or critical judgment?
  • Do you want to validate the words or thoughts of the negative voice or do you want to prove it wrong?
  • Question whether you are responding to the word “should” or if you are actually making a choice.

Ways to strengthen your positive inner voice:

  • Challenge the voice – Is it speaking the truth? The current truth?
  • Argue with the voice – “You are wrong! I can do this!”
  • Dismiss the voice – “Your opinion doesn’t matter to me.”
  • Remember the positive comments made by¬†someone you trust and respect.
  • Remember that progress, not perfection, is what matters most.
  • Remember that you have the right to learn new skills or change your attitudes and behaviors
  • Remember you have the right to fail occasionally and still be successful.
  • Remember kindness can be more satisfying than being right.

Some links mentioned in this episode:

My Fitness Pal РA free resource to help you monitor caloric intake and exercise. Community message boards allow for interaction and support from people with similar goals, questions, and successes.

Weight Watchers¬†– In-person or online only fee-based weight loss program that encourages healthy eating. An online social community called Connect allows members to ask questions and encourage each other on their weight loss journey. The emphasis is on defining your “why” and learning how to eat healthier so you not only lose weight, but so that you also keep the weight off.


What do you do to silence negative inner voices? Share your best tips in the comments section below.

Ep000: My Inaugural Episode

Confession time… I am writing this entry at 6:42 p.m. on January 10, 2017. I am going to post this entry to show a publish date of 04:59 a.m. I am going to do this so future visitors to my website will be able to listen to my podcast episodes in the proper order.



Why am I posting this episode AFTER my episode 001?

Let me tell you… a funny thing happened on the way to creating this episode. Okay, it wasn’t really funny, it was momentarily devastating. Here’s what happened…

My after-work plan for yesterday, Monday, January 9th, was to record this introductory episode, edit and publish it. The plan was for it to be published moments before Episode 001: Inner Voices.

All was going well until it wasn’t.

I was finalizing/reviewing my talking points in a Word document, when the computer locked up. The mouse worked, but the keyboard didn’t. I thought the wireless keyboard’s batteries had died. Then the monitor screens went black. The computer powered down and tried to restart–unsuccessfully.

I gave it a few minutes to try to recover, but it didn’t. I should know computer CPR, but I was a baffled¬†bystander who could only watch as it tried to survive unassisted. When I could witness its suffering no longer, I pressed the power button so it could rest in peace.

Selfishly I bemoaned the loss of the required technology for my new podcast. Almost immediately I wrote off the contributions this magnificent tower of technology had provided thus far and replaced it with a relic: a laptop running the Windows XP operating system.

Two black screens and one relic laptop to get the job done.

Two black screens and one relic laptop to get the job done.

It took some time to reacquaint myself with a much older version of my audio editing software. Before I knew it, I was out of time.

High tech recording studio? Not so much.

High tech recording studio? Not so much.

This afternoon I recorded the episode, edited it, and discovered that the older version of the software doesn’t recognize the music and intro clips I used¬†with my first three episodes. Oh well. Life happens, right?

So this afternoon I published a naked version of my introductory episode.

Now I have a week to figure out how I am going to put all the pieces together for next week’s episode.

Earl is working on rebuilding the computer. Fingers crossed he is successful.